She made sure that they knew she felt "broken" by all their actions and was now "damaged goods". After trying to help her see their "love" for her, the other elder posed those 2 questions to her.....
It's interesting here Minimus (but certainly not surprising when it comes to JWs) to note that, from your description of the events they used deflection and transference.
Rather than offering up apologies for their past actions and conduct towards your Mom they stopped short of it, turned the whole "love" issue around and called into question her level of love for Jehovah and the Watchtower. (It's also interesting that there second question was applied to the Watchtower men in Brooklyn and not applied to Jesus who sacrificed for our sins and is the cornerstone of Christianity - but that's another point).
Interestingly, my name was never brought up yesterday but this same elder called her the day before and made this comment:"I doubt Minimus sees you as often as he did before. Just remember WE are your real family!".........Any comments?
Her is another example of deflection and transference. This visit stemmed from a comment that your Mom made about the local JWs not visiting her sincerely. Rather than acknowledge that fact, apologize for it and correct it they completely ignore her feelings and try to turn the spotlight on you and whether you are visiting her often. They obviously assume you are not hence the arrogance in their follow up comment (which is also probably a veiled threat).
Further to that Minimus I guess their response to your mother's complaint about not being visited was to drop by and accuse her of not being a good enough JW. These people have no concept of what it means to be emotionally supportive to others because they are too wrapped up in themselves.
I feel real sorry for what your Mom is going through Buddy. You have been chronicling it here in the forums for some time now. The love and concern you have for your Mom comes through in your posts. It must be hard to have to sit back and watch men and a cult emotionally attack on your elderly Mom on an ongoing basis. As difficult as it may be at her stage in life I hope she is able to escape them.
